Friday, April 11, 2008

Baby Update

Well, I'm sure a lot of you are wondering why I haven't been updating like crazy about the baby. So here's the update...

Bryan and I went to our first OB appointment with Dr. Innes on March 18th. It was probably one of the worst experiences in my life! First Bryan and I waited in the waiting room for about 20 min before a nurse finally came and got us. She took us back and asked a few questions about my thyroid and then left. We waited probably another 15min before we finally got to meet Dr. Innes. She walked in and told me that she would be doing an ultra sound and that after the ultra sound she wanted to do her own blood work to see where I stood with my thyroid medication. Then she left the room. When she came back in she did an ultra sound and measured the baby. She said it was about five weeks old according to her measurements, but there was a problem. She couldn't find a heart beat. So I immediately started to panic and feel just absolutely sick to my stomach. She started talking about miscarriage and my "options". She talked about a shot she would have to give me to induce the miscarriage, or a pill I could take. Then she talked about doing a DNC. I was completely devastated! I went home and bawled all night. Jessica called me later that night to see how things went and I told her the whole story. She went on-line and found out that MOST babies don't even develop a heart beat until six or seven weeks! Well, I woke up the next morning and my eyes were swollen shut and I had broken out in hives. I went back to my regular doctor to see what that was all about. So of course I had to tell Dr. Dejecacion (that's who I normally see- LOVE her!) all about the appointment. She was very reassuring and said that the reason I broke out was due to my very high levels of stress, and the best thing I could do for myself and the baby was to relax. She also told me that you usually don't see a heart beat this early, and it was possible that my baby was just sleeping or in a weird position that made the heart beat hard to see. So at this point I've decided that I hate Dr. Innes for not even mentioning any of these other possibilities to me! There was a lot more that happened, but with a little help I found a new OB that said she wouldn't see me before 8 weeks because everything before then was likely to be inaccurate! (Again, something to add to the "why I hate Dr. Innis" list)

So I canceled my follow up with Dr. Innes and scheduled another first appointment with Dr. Mos. Let me just say right now- Dr. Mos was perfect! She was so nice and really what I needed after Dr. Innes. Anyway, Bryan and I went to see Dr. Mos on Monday (April 7). When we walked in they had us fill out patient history forms, and then as soon as I was done a nurse came and got me. She took my weight, height, and blood pressure. She explained that the weight and blood pressure were something they would do at every appointment from now on and why. Then she brought me back to a room where Dr. Mos had a "goodie bag" waiting for me. It had a bunch of different prenatal vitamins, a booklet about what I should be doing and what I should avoid, a calendar to mark important dates, a little diaper bag, and even stuff for after the baby was born. It was way cool! So when Bryan and I got finished looking through the bag we did a few more fun things and then Dr. Mos came in. She spoke with us for a while about what to eat and what I couldn't do anymore, she told us what she was going to be doing that day and then what she expected me to be going through in the next few weeks. She asked if we had any questions and then we got started. Keep in mind this was all stuff that Dr. Innes never even brought up. I had no idea that there were different kinds of prenatal pills or how important they were, nor did I know that running is a bad idea even during early pregnancy! There was a lot that Dr. Mos told me that I had no clue about that Dr. Innes never even mentioned! Anyway...


Dr. Mos started the ultra sound and at first she was the only one who could see the monitor. She was looking and moving things around for a good five minutes before she turned the monitor to let Bryan and I see. She showed me where everything was and explained exactly what I was looking at. Then she showed us where the baby should have been. She stopped the ultra sound and told me that this typically mean that I had miscarried and just didn't realize it, but it was very possible that it was just too early, or that the baby had developed in such a way that it was too hard to see right now. I told her that I hadn't been cramping or even spotting. She rolled over to me and put her hand on my back and told me that some women don't, and they still lose their babies. She told me that she wasn't ready to give up just yet, and that I shouldn't either. She was going to do a hormone test to make sure my hormones were still going up. If they were then she would assume that this was just too early and she would see me again next week.


Because Bryan and I had seen the baby with Dr. Innes and now there was nothing we knew that we had lost the baby. I didn't really want to talk about it right then, but I had to come back on Wednesday to finish the hormone test that she wanted to run. I told her about Dr. Innes on Wednesday and she said that she still wanted to run the test to be sure, but she agreed that I most likely lost the baby. She asked if I wanted to do a DNC, and said that it was probably the fastest way to go. We talked about what all a DNC involved and what I could expect after the surgery. She asked if I had any questions about that and then asked if Bryan and I would be trying again. I told her about a bunch of people that I knew of that got pregnant again within a few weeks of having a DNC. She told me that it is very easy to get pregnant again after something like this, but that she would strongly recommend I wait two months before trying. I guess the chances of a second miscarriage are pretty high if you don't wait.

So, in summary...
Dr. Innes-Bad







Dr. Mos- Good







We lost the baby, but will try again soon.



Oh, and P.S.- My surgery is Monday morning so any prayers of it going well would be greatly appreciated!

6 comments:

RYAN EMILY & OWEN said...

Randi... you are sooo strong i cant even believe it! You have been in our prayers all week and i want you to know if you need anything please let me know! We love you, and im so sorry.

Be strong and it will all be ok

*kt* said...

Randi I am so sorry to hear that! You are an amazing person and you WILL get through this! Heavenly Father (and I) love you! You are going to make a great mom, and you will definitely be in my prayers this week! Please update us on your status! Love ya, girl!

Lisa and Mark said...

i'm so sorry randi, but i'll definitely be praying for you!

Ryan and Jamie Sharp said...

Randi...i am so sorry! You guys can push through it. like Emily said you are so strong and can get through anything. Ryan and I will keep you in our prayers! We love you!

Kari said...

Oh, Sweetie. I would fix this if I could. Sometimes it seems Heavenly Father sends us a gift we weren't even aware we wanted and then gives us the opportunity to realize we desired it more than anything? I agree with your friends. You and Bryan are both strong, faithful, and full of faith! You will stay in my thoughts and prayers. Thank you for having the courage to share such difficult news with those who love you....and we DO love you!

Emily B. said...

Randi, this is Emily (Hall) Beckham. I just found your blog and was reading through it and got to this post. I am SO SORRY! The exact same thing happened to me last summer (and I see Dr. DaVolio who is in the same practice with Dr. Mos - they are the best!). It was the hardest thing I ever went through and my heart just goes out to you. Just remember that Heavenly Father hasn't forgotten your family!